A client whose adolescent son died by suicide receives news that the coroner says the son had AIDS. Which response is appropriate for supporting the client?

• A. You should not jump to conclusions.
• B. It's God's will.
• C. This isn't something you should discuss with others.
• D. Your son was keeping a very troubling diagnosis to himself. I am so sorry. No matter how close and loving children are to their parents, some children just aren't able to confide in their parents.

Answer: (D)

Empathy and validation in a bereavement moment are central. The strongest response offers sincere condolence and helps the parent feel understood, not blamed, while gently acknowledging the child’s private struggle. Saying “Your son was keeping a very troubling diagnosis to himself. I am so sorry” honors the parent’s pain and directly recognizes that even loving families may not know everything a child is facing. It also explains, without judgment, that some children aren’t able to confide in their parents, which can help the parent make sense of the silence and reduce self-blame. This approach opens space for continued support and conversation, rather than shutting it down or imposing beliefs. The other options tend to minimize the parent's feelings, push a particular belief, or discourage seeking support, which can hinder grieving and healing.